It starts on the playgrounds of elementary schools when boys begin teasing and mercilessly taunting little girls to the point of exasperation. The poor little girl will come home sad and miserable telling mom or dad about how Johnny stole their sweater off the bench and made her chase him around the monkey bars just to get it back. “He likes you” is the typical response. From that day on the body language of men is a confusing mix of sarcasm and kindness that can leave any girl (even grown ones) wondering what in the world he is thinking or feeling!

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Reading the body language of men is definitely a gift and every man subconsciously gives off clues to his interest in you if you are willing to pay attention. Many of these things happen quickly, in the first few seconds or minutes of meeting someone. When a man raises his brows and parts his lips in your presence he is opening his face to see you and allow you to see him. Biting their lip while they talk or putting their hands to their mouth is a form of subconscious auto erotic touching that also portrays interest. They will begin to stand with more confidence, often taller- with hands on their hips so that you have the opportunity to see their physique and stature. This also makes them appear more self-confident and assured. Fiddling with his hair, tie, socks or anything else is also a nervous indication that he is trying to impress you and cares what you think.

Less subtle and perhaps more meaningful clues that a man is interested in you is the placement of their hands on your arm or at the small of your back; especially while walking. This shows “ownership” and is the human equivalent to marking their territory so to speak. If they lend you a jacket or any other piece of clothing this ensures two things; one they really like you and feel “protective” and two – they are planning to see you again so they can get their belongings back; leaving a jacket with you gives them an excuse to call you without seeming overly interested.

The body of language of men though should not be your main concern when it comes to meeting or dating new men. If you are interested in a man; there is no greater power than that associated with the advances of a woman. He may walk by you once or twice and seem uninterested – but it might be just because he couldn’t imagine you being interested in him. So while you are reading the body language of the men in your life; take some time to learn some body language of your own. Often by opening your self up to taking chances, being brave and initiating the first conscious inkling of interest you can magnetically attract the men into your life that you find interesting and want to get to know better.

This not only shows him that you are a confident person (which men worth dating find attractive) but also that you are not worried about age old traditions or afraid of being rejected. Once you catch his eye; you can look for some of the body language in men clues to ascertain whether he feels the same spark that you do! You have nothing to lose by going after the things in your life that you want; but not taking a chance might just cost you that soul mate you have been searching for! And remember, assertive does not mean aggressive – just be your self and never be afraid to take the first step. As most of you probably know; men are often more intimidated by women than the other way around.

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