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You have passed pictures on Facebook and spend plenty of time emailing each other every chance you get in order to stay connected.  Text messaging and cell phones make it even easier to ignore the fact that you are miles away from each other.  But at night time, as you are alone the truth hits home and it can feel frustrating, unfair and heartbreaking.  Take heart, there is some long distance relationship advice that might just keep you going!

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One thing you should realize up front is that if the person you are in a relationship with lives far away (perhaps you met online) than at some point one of you HAS TO CHOOSE!  Although long distance relationships can work for a while; they can never replace the close physical contact that is viable to human existence.  Eventually, either you or he will have to trade jobs and zip codes in order to make it work!  If you realize this than continuing for the ‘short term’ is not a bad idea!  The discussion of who will be moving and a time frame should be discussed in long distance relationships as soon as either of you realize that things are getting serious!

Once that is covered, the long distance relationship advice you need to know is this…make sure he is not married or dating someone that is local to him.  Lots of people carry on two lives and a call from a hysterical wife at 3 in the morning IS NOT the way to find out that he is scum.  Don’t take his word for it or be one of those women that just falls for any excuse.  If there are certain times of the day when he is not available (like throughout the evening & night) or times when he whispers, doesn’t answer the phone or email back you should proceed with caution.  A single man should be able to answer the phone at 7pm while he is at home 7 days a week!  If you have a sneaking suspicion -don’t turn your self into a raving lunatic; just chalk it up to experience and MOVE ON!

The truth is that a long distance relationship can work!  You have to be willing to think out of the box, use modern technology to stay connected and keep enough money on hand to take impromptu trips to each other’s landscape.  You also need to make sure that the person at the other end is taking things as serious as you are and are making efforts and strides to show the way they feel about you.  The fact that you are miles away should never be the excuse for being inconsistent or inconsiderate!

Also, realize that more than likely you and him did not intend to get into this situation.  Love across miles can commence on vacation or can be the result of either you or him having to move away for business or personal reasons.  It could be that the one you love is in the military and has been shipped off to sea for months at a time.  Use patience and compassion when it comes to the relationship.  You should realize from the beginning that a long distance relationship presents more challenges than others and you will have to use creativity and realistically discuss your expectations with your partner.  This way the two of you will be working under the same dynamic and chances of it working out long term are much better!

Another bit of long distance relationship advice is to ensure that you have enough to keep you busy!  Enroll in that yoga class and take the time to learn pottery or something else you have always wanted to do.  Don’t just sit home waiting for the phone to ring!  Take it from experience, if you have too much free time you will drive your self crazy and become resentful about the void.  Take the long distance relationship as an opportunity to explore your passions and do things that will keep you socially active and NEVER dependant upon a sign from your cross country lover that you are worthy.  This will solve two problems; one you will be busy and increasing your self constantly and secondly; you will always have new things to talk about.

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Perhaps the last bit of long distance relationship advice is to remain connected through conversation!  Ask lots of questions and find out all you can about his daily life, friends, highs, lows and emotional needs.  Try to support him like you expect him to support you and remain interested. Yes, the replay of the poker game can get boring…but hearing the recounts will keep the two of you connected, informed and interested in one another.  As terrible as it is to admit; men need their egos stroked and listening to them as if they hold the key to the fountain of youth goes a long way in endearing men to you.

No matter how you ended up in your long distance relationship; understand that at some point if things are meant to be; they will.  This can take months or years!  With each relationship we have; casual or serious – there is a lesson to be learned and insight to be gained that will prepare you for the next step!  Pay attention so you will always be able to learn your lesson and add to your gallery of life experience.