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At 19-years-old, thoughts about how to keep a man had never crossed my mind.  I was in love with someone who I genuinely thought of as both a friend and a lover.  We didn’t have bad times, we didn’t fight, we spent a lot of time together and time flew every time I was with him.

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Although I thought we had a great relationship that worked, there were questions I had that I never asked.  Mainly I wondered where we were going in our relationship.  I didn’t want to smother him or jinx what felt like a good thing, so I kept it to myself.

A time came when due to my poor financial situation, I decided to leave town for my parents house to save money and regroup.  I was very much in love when I left but part of me thought that our relationship would die due to us being on two different sides of the country.  He actually encouraged me to go.  Surprisingly, after I moved away we still managed to talk on the phone almost daily.

All was good until he took a job out of town and I stopped hearing from him as much.  I moved back to the city and with his new job he was still a few hours drive from where I lived.  It was strange but we talked less when we were closer than when we did when I was thousands of miles away.  Daily conversations turned into weekly, then every two weeks, until we barely spoke at all.

Doubts settled in, and paranoia, and those old questions came back to me.  What if this was all a game to him?  Why can’t he find a few minutes to call me anymore?  Was he seeing someone else now?  All he has to do is tell me the truth, I thought.

I did what a lot of women desperate and in love do.  I left urgent messages to call me.  I spilled my heart out to him in emails.  I called and called him without getting any response.  I basically made a fool of myself.  We met once during this period and had sex.  It was the last time I ever saw him.

In the end the relationship just dissolved. there was no official breakup, no goodbyes, and to this day, I don’t know what his real feelings for me were.  All I knew was that I was tired of feeling ignored and I gave up.  I wanted him to want me back and to fight for me but that never happened.

Did you catch my mistakes?  All I wanted was to have him closer to me but the desperation, the clinging, and the urgency was pushing him away.  Sound familiar?

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Can you tell that I was a young woman who knew nothing about relationships or how to deal with men?  I also had a lot to learn about myself back then.  I was surprised by my own reactions.  I never thought that my relationship could go from light and fun to being an emotional burden.  I could have used some help.

If I knew a few of the techniques on how to keep a man that I know now, that story could have had a better ending.  I was an emotional wreck and I acted foolishly because of it.  I needed a way to diffuse those emotions, to know if he still cared for me, to understand where he was coming from, and to recognize the behavior that was making matters worse.  I had no idea how to answer those questions and having that knowledge would have made a world of difference.